You’re going to have to exercise for the rest of your life.
To eat right, to sleep right, to work hard, to struggle in learning, to read books, to resolve conflicts in relationships, to manage your money properly, to meditate, to breathe…
To take on even bigger challenges and risks.
You. Will. Never. Be. Done.
So are you doing what fuels you? Do you even know what it is that fuels you? That gives you more passion, more peace and freedom, deeper connections?
Do you know what drains you?
When you keep this list written down somewhere, you’re identity has a chance to flourish.
Life is too fucking hard not to know what you want and be moving toward it.
If you feel like you’re barely treading water (in life), chances are you’re just not as clear as you need to be on your values and what fuels vs drains you.
A lot of this could even be the food you’re putting (or not putting) in your body. For me, gluten makes me tired and irritable as hell. So does refined sugar and alcohol. I’m still going to be alive for the next few days after those decisions, and dealing with the consequences is not even worth it for me anymore.
I’d rather have my energy.
So, if there is no finish line, if we’ll never be done in life, what is it that keeps us moving forward making these difficult decisions every day and taking the short-term pain upfront?
Avoiding long-term pain can be one powerful reason, but who wants to live a life only for that? Not me.
Even after getting great results for a while, like making more money than ever before or hooking up with a hotter girl than ever before or having threesomes or whatever, eventually the newness fades from that and we’re once again left alone.
You’ve got to have something bigger than yourself that you’re living for. You’ve got to be giving back in a special way that energizes you. That’s the key. That’s something worth growing for.
If you want contentment, fulfillment, serenity, happiness, you’ve got to be giving back to your fellow earth dwellers. That’s where the fulfillment ultimately lies. I’m not necessarily talking about charity, by the way. If charity fires you up, then do it, but usually that’s not what energizes me the most. I’m talking about offering real value paid or unpaid, but something that is real and helps somebody you love.
I think one of life’s most important questions is: Who do I want to help? Whose life can I make a little bit better today?
When you’re focused on what you can do for others, you don’t really want there to be a finish line.
In fact, helping others may be the most selfish thing you can do. It feels fucking awesome.