Love, Truth & Justice


Is light right and darkness wrong? Is space the enemy of matter?

Of course not. They work together, supporting each other in balance. The “masculine” and “feminine” aspects of nature work together to comprise creation.

It is beautiful, it is terrifying, and maybe it is all fucking perfect.

And until we are able to see the usefulness of both aspects of light and dark for the perfection of existence, we will be severely limiting and even crippling ourselves.

Right now in our society, we are taught that certain emotions are better than others. However, we are not usually taught the importance and usefulness of ALL of our emotions.

In the book The Emotional Life of Your Brain, Dr Davidson and Sharon Begley write of the unique aspects of the left and right hemispheres of our brains as they correspond to our emotions. It turns out, according to their 30+ years of study and searching, that the “positive” emotions are associated with the left hemisphere of the brain, and the “negative” emotions are associated with the right hemisphere. The right hemisphere is associated with more feminine qualities (intuition, creative expression, qualitative perception, vision, etc), and the left hemisphere the more masculine qualities (logic, direction, quantitative perception, factual knowledge, etc).

I might not need to mention this, but positive emotions are generally joy, happiness, bliss, inspiration, hope, pride, etc. While negative emotions are generally fear, anger, shame, sadness, grief, etc.

Here’s the thing which is so misunderstood in our society. “Positive” and “negative” are simply names of poles of magnetism. You know how magnets work, right? There’s a positively charged end and a negatively charged end.  Well, we humans are magnetic, too. And if we are only allowing ourselves to operate at one of these poles of magnetism, then we are not balanced!

The popular advice is to “be positive.” I now believe that’s terrible advice. It’s not balanced, and it’s not whole. How about we be balanced? How about we recognize the importance of being whole people who have both a negative and positive capacity?

Let’s take anger as an example of a negative emotion to demonstrate this:

We need anger to help us protect what is important to us. Anger is the emotion connected to our boundaries. When a boundary of mine is “pushed up against,” I’m going to have a sense of protectiveness, an energetic fuel of sorts, which propels me to protect that which I love.

Do I prefer to feel anger? No, not all the time, because it’s situationally appropriate. But sometimes in life, we must protect that which we love, and in situations that call for it, it’s important for us to be connected to our capacity for anger so that we can do just that.

Here’s a big surprise: we are all a part of nature. We are made out of earth, water, air and fire (sunshine). And we need all of these elements to be whole. And Nature is masculine AND feminine. If it’s too much of either, it’s not balanced.

If there hair on the back of my neck stands up when someone walks into the room, I’m grateful for my sense of fear, so that I can be alert to possible or imminent danger and deal with the situation accordingly.

When I lose something or someone that I love, I feel sadness. It’s a healthy response!!!

So let’s realize that we are all part of this infinite universe of light and dark, of negative and positive, of masculine and feminine, and that one is not better than the other, but that these poles of polarity support each other in the birth and death and existence of creation.

Did you know that Life needs Death? Is one better than the other? No! They need each other in order to BE, in order to exist in a healthy state. In his book The Book of Secrets, Deepak Chopra, MD writes about cancer. Did you know that cancerous cells are cells that have mutated in order to avoid their natural programming to die? Healthy cells are programmed to die in order to make way for new cells. So yes, cancer cells are cells which are refusing to die as naturally programmed!

Birth and Death are both required for this whole thing we often call LIFE to exist.

And it’s ok. It’s all ok. In fact, maybe it’s all fucking awesome.

I have this theory about Love, which I first heard described in an interview on Sounds True: Insights at the Edge podcast and Claude Poncelet who recently published the book The Shaman Within.

He said that he took a spiritual journey to the black hole at the center of our galaxy. And when he got there, the love he felt was so immense and intense and beautiful that he almost couldn’t bring himself to leave. And that’s when he realized that Love is the Truth. And that there is no difference between love and the truth, but that they are actually the same thing.

Could he be completely bonkers off his ronkers? Of course. And maybe he is! But listening to him speak, I believed what he said because I felt the sincerity and the depth of what he was saying. And now I, too, have faith that love is the truth. I haven’t traveled to a black hole (yet), but I can consider it a possibility. Why not?

I choose to believe that this whole thing we’re living in is made out of Love. That’s my theory and my faith: that somehow it’s all love. It doesn’t always make sense, especially when things “go wrong.” Like, when people are being hurt and killed and are starving or persecuted around the world… it doesn’t make sense when good people die early, or when good people suffer for seemingly no reason or for the shortsightedness and malice of others.

But then again, maybe it does. Maybe everything is exactly the way it’s supposed to be.

And maybe Love really is the Truth.

And somehow in this Truth, we continue our quest for Justice. For what is right and wrong, for what we stand for and for what we stand up against in this world.

Let us have the courage to live with our questions for as long as it takes, to never stop exploring for more and better answers, and to honor the infinity of which we are all an important part.



A Flower, a Quote & a Poem I Wrote


Today’s post is a collection of a few thoughts, one of my favorite quotes of all time, and a poem to the feminine essence.

First, the flower:

The pictures above are of me with my butternut squash plant I’m growing in my apartment courtyard. It took around a month for the flower to open. It started as a seed which I’ve been watering and tending. And then “magically,” “overnight” there bloomed a flower, just this morning.

[In case you’re wondering, I put “magically” and “overnight” in quotations to emphasize that the ideas of “magic, overnight” successes are really just myths! Of course, anything of value takes time, energy and focus to manifest.]

The quote:

“The secret to living is giving.” -Anthony Robbins

Anthony Robbin’s latest book Money: Master the Game really spoke to my soul on the philosophy of money, giving and life in general. He emphasizes the power of shifting from the mindset of a “go-getter” to being a “go-giver.” Oh yeah, and he shares his insights and transcripts from interviewing 50 of the world’s most financially successful people. (Think billionaires like Ray Dalio and Charles Schwab).

The poem:

This morning I started reading Open Her by Karen Brody. She writes about how women are like gardens, which when tended to lovingly and patiently can blossom and grow. I’m only a couple chapters into the book, but it’s already been life-changing.

And it inspired me to write a poem.

Confessions To The Feminine

All this hate in my heart
All this fear in my soul
I’m working so hard
And I still don’t feel whole

I imagine you can feel it
And I’m sorry if it tolls
I’d tell you I’ll be good soon
But this moment now is the gold

I’ll keep doing what I can
Fuck it, I love being a man
To create, serve and observe
Maybe you’ll still see who I am

Your radiance is perfect
Your darkness is pure
Your cheekbones tell me stories
I adore your scent and curves

Your joy is my treasure
Your heart is my forest
Your intuition my sage
Come, love, let us explore

My love is demanding
See, I want everything
I want your pain and your joy
And anything you can bring

I’m inspired by your essence
So I offer you my presence
My patience and dedication
To serve your respiration

To your breath and to your system
To the parts of you yet imprisoned
Your beauty fills my vision
Your ecstasy is my mission

In love and service,