I want the truth more than I want anything else, because, instinctively, I know that the truth will set me free.
I know this in my bones.
I know it like I know beautiful music from harsh, grating notes.
We can know truth, in it’s various forms.
The measure of inner truth is sincerity. Is she genuine in expressing her inner world? Does she believe what she’s saying about her inner world? Do I believe she believes what she’s saying? That’s called subjective truth. (It’s “true” for her.)
We can also believe something sincerely, and that belief can be totally false objectively. Our sincerity in the belief we can jump off a cliff and fly, will not negate the existence of gravity.
The measure of outer truth is objective, empirical, scientific. Does the proposition match reality? Can the facts be verified and repeated?
I’ve been searching for the truth for as long as I can remember.
Here are some of the my current (subjective) truths:
+There is often more truth in the questions than there are in the answers
+Add softening qualifiers like “some,” “sometimes” or “often” to statements and they become truer. For example: “People love ice cream.” –not quite as true as “Some people love ice cream.”
+Good musicality and imagery of language increases resonance in communication. People will usually feel the communication more, and thus understand more. This includes rhyming, orderliness and simplicity. Syntax counts.
+Good music doesn’t lie.
+People are almost always terrified of uncertainty, and will desperately cling to what we already believe, usually until it becomes too painful to continue with those same beliefs. Death is not too painful for many, in this scenario.
+Live with the questions for as long as it takes. Don’t allow your intense desire for certainty overpower your precious curiosity. Your brain is not on your side, in this respect. It is literally hardwired to find certainty in what you already believe and to ignore any evidence which might contradict presuppositions.
+Patience is paramount.
+Discover what energizes you and brings you joy. Implement.
+Discover what drains you and brings you down. Eradicate.
+Keep turning towards your pain.
+Crying is like taking a shit. It’s not the prettiest thing in the world, but it’s even worse when you avoid “doing your business.” Cry often.
+Ask for what you want, and be ok with the answer.
+Keep some awareness on your heart when you’re angry. This way instead of straight anger, you’re practicing “heart-anger” (credit: Robert Augusts Masters)
+The women in your life already know when you’re angry, sad, ashamed, withholding, etc, so you might as well talk about it.
+”Stress” is the high-achievers word for “fear.”
+Fear is not the enemy. Resisting and avoiding fear is the enemy. Don’t fear fear (sorry, JFK); embrace fear with consciousness and compassion.
+Simple communication is usually the most powerful.
There is a beautiful, intelligent structure to the cosmos, and there is order in the chaos. Let us continue to investigate courageously the deep structures of reality, both inside and out.
P.S. None of my musings are really anything like life coaching at all. Life coaching isn’t about giving advice or offering pithy quotes, it’s about asking questions and uncovering deep motivations and those obstacles which stands in the way of getting what you want.
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