The Quick Summary Of All We Know To Be True: Emotion

Our bodies collect the information from all of our experiences, and our emotions give us the split second summary of what is needed in the moment, based on three things: 1. All that collected information 2. The questions we are asking 3. What we want

Our thinking minds FOLLOW our emotional intelligence–not the other way around. Our minds generate reasons based on what the heart has already decided.

So when we can learn to FEEL the sensations in our bodies more subtly, more intimately, we develop an unfair advantage for getting what we want–especially when we couple that sensory awareness with real world experience, which can more accurately inform our emotions.

Our positivism lasts a bit longer when it is more closely aligned with reality.

Because if you’ve only seen 2 swans and both were white, then there’s no such thing as a black swan. Until you see a black swan, of course.

We all have different methods and modes of information gathering and interpretation. We’re all sponges of our environments. We soak it up, whatever it is.

If you’re born in Saudi Arabia, chances are you’ll be able give me excellent reasons for why Allah wants everyone to be a good Muslim.

If you’re born in the southeastern United States, chances are you’ll be able to give me great reasons why good people should join a church and believe in the blood sacrifice of Jesus.

If you’re born in South America, chances are you’ll be able to explain why being a Catholic and having socialist political leanings is the best way to live.

But the reasons come from a deeper source. They come out of needing an explanation for how you feel. Because how you feel informs how you think. And how you feel is based on your life experience.

So get in there ever more deeply. Experience much. Ask lots of questions.

Pay attention to the currents, the ebbing and flowing and rippling, to both the slick, quick running and the slow, almost imperceptible, glacier-like movements.

There’s so much information available.

And ALL of it helps us get to where we want to go. Where do you want to go? What do you want?

Chances are that you’ve already decided what you want and your mind has made up reasons to justify it.

 

I want to come more fully alive.

What do YOU want?

Motion Creates Emotion

You can only give what you have. So if you’re offering good emotions, interesting observations, humor, companionship, love, etc, that means you have it.

The more of it you give, the more of it you must have. If you didn’t have it, you wouldn’t be able to give it.

What if you don’t feel good or interesting or funny or loving in the moment?

Well, remember that emotions follows motion. The Latin prefix “e” means “from” or “out of.” So emotion literally means “from motion.” In other words, if you ACT funny, you may be able to amuse yourself. Try amusing yourself first, instead of amusing others. Trying to amuse others can be perceived as reaction-seeking and therefore needy. Trying to amuse yourself is self-sustaining, non-needy and healthy. And interestingly, when you amuse yourself, generally other people are amused, too, as long as they can understand it.

If you don’t feel loving, well, how about try loving yourself first. Act loving. Accept where you are, focus on what is right about where you are and where you are headed, and allow yourself to feel your own love, care and admiration. You are important! Chances are, after you allow yourself to love yourself, you’ll feel more capable and in a better position to love another.

Life is difficult. It’s full of paradox and it’s so often downright confusing. These actions mentioned above (like all actions) take effort. They take energy. But these types of actions are positive, energy-creating actions, meaning that when you’ve done them, you feel energized instead of drained. Some actions drain us. Some energize us. Negative, Positive.

Make sure you’re devoting ample time to mastering yourself, understanding your body and mind and the world. Love yourself. Because as Ayn Rand said, “In order to say, ‘I love you, you must first say “I.”‘”

Take a minute to congratulate yourself for how far you’ve come.

Really, what are you proud of right now? What is going RIGHT in your life? What are you grateful for?

Cool!

Remember, if you’re focusing on it, that’s what you’ll get more of. So make sure you’re focusing on what you actually want, not what you DON’T want.

Love,

Aaron

 

The World is a Reflection of You!

However you view yourself, that is how you will view the world, and vice versa!

If you think the world sucks, then you may have not yet admitted that you feel the same way about yourself.

Now, just because you FEEL this way, doesn’t mean that it must be permanent.

In fact,  according to a lot of the newest research, feelings/emotions only really last for around 4 seconds.

Feelings FEEL like that’s all there will ever be while they’re happening, but, of course, they always give way to new feelings.

So recognize all this for what it is.

You feelings/emotions are a message.

They’re a direct response based on your current interpretation of events. And you will be held accountable for what you “know.”

For example, if I “Know” that I should be doing my homework and studying for a big test coming up, but I’m choosing NOT to do this, there’s probably no way I’ll feel at my peak emotional enjoyment state.

I can try to pretend that nothing is wrong or that it’s not that important, but deep down, your emotions always tell the truth based on what you believe.

So accept it! Accept your emotions right where they’re at, because they are exactly the emotions/feelings you should be feeling right now based on your current interpretation of the world.

And remember to keep learning and growing and surrounding yourself with people who already have the results you’re looking for.

Because it could be that your current “interpretation” of circumstances and “reality” is the problem—–not the emotions.

Love,

Aaron