25 Fun Things To Do That Don’t Require A Partner

When we love ourselves magnificently, people are automatically attracted to what we have and they want to be in relationship with us.

Sometimes we forget that we already have everything we need to be happy!

When we feel needy, like we don’t have everything we need already, people are often repelled from us. It’s a lot of pressure to put on someone else to make us happy. It’s not their job.

Here are 25 fun things to do that don’t require a partner:

  1. Play with yourself 😀
  2. Read
  3. Take a walk
  4. Make a blog/video blog
  5. Eat
  6. Meditate
  7. Think about your dreams, your possibilities
  8. Study a fun subject you want to learn more about
  9. Work out
  10. Sleep
  11. Hygiene (like skin-brush/oil-pulling/flossing) haha, might as well enjoy this one if you’re going to do it for the rest of your life!
  12. Take a hot bath (maybe my favorite!)
  13. Watch a movie or TV show (diminishing returns on this one, if you know what I mean).
  14. Self-date!
  15. Self-massage (note: can be easily combined with #1 😉 )
  16. Journal
  17. Play guitar or other musical instrument
  18. Listen to music
  19. Dance alone in your room (SELF-DANCE PARTY!!!)
  20. Sing
  21. Whistle
  22. Lay out in the sun (seasonal)
  23. Infrared sauna (got to have one tho, haha)
  24. Tarot cards
  25. Practice telling jokes

There are SO many ways we can have pleasure and enjoy our lives *without* a partner.

If you’re feeling needy or desperate, just remember that you’ve got everything inside you to give yourself all the joy you could ever possible want.

Having someone to share it with is a bonus.

Happy Wednesday.



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Stop Trying To Make It And Start Having Fun


A few nights ago out at the club I was talking to these two adorable half filipina girls. We were having a great time joking around, laughing and getting to know each other.

Enter the little ginger.

You could just see it on his face. He was pissed. He wanted to be “the man” in the conversation, and he kept on weirdly trying to tell me, “you’re so cool, man, you’re so cool.” Apparently he had read the book The Game and he was trying to “AMOG” me…

I’ve actually never read The Game, although it’s kind of funny I haven’t after all the other crazy shit I’ve read and done. However, I’m familiar with the lingo and the “techniques” in the book, and it was obvious he was trying to use this one on me in order to look cooler and steal the girls from me.

This may seem far out, so just go with me on this one.

I noticed how ridiculous he was being, and I sincerely tried to be nice to him and his friend. It was just so sad though because you could see how obsessed he was with his goal of looking cool and being “the man” that he couldn’t even see me or the girls as people. We were only objects to him.

He was trying so hard to “make it” that it came off as desperate and weird, and not at all cool!

Anyway, the girls and I just ignored him and continued to have a good time and fun conversation. I wasn’t trying to make it. I was just trying to connect with people and have fun.

It made me think of all the times in life when we can take success too seriously. It’s easy to forget that we’re all going to die soon, and there really is no such thing as security or lasting comfort.

There will never be “no worries for the rest of your days.” Sorry to break it to ya, but Hakuna Mattata is a fucking joke.

Ha ha.

But it’s ok. It’s a funny joke. As long as you get it. And you let go of your attachment, as the Buddhists recommend, to your desire to live forever.

Steve Jobs, in his famous commencement speech at Stanford University said that death is life’s most important gift because it reminds us that our time is limited and it forces us to use it well.

I couldn’t agree more.

Sure, I’m still sad about death. I don’t want to die.

But when we remember that all of it, and I mean ALL of it, is a gift, life becomes full of gratitude, fun, and fulfillment.

So as you are pushing towards your goals, as you’re working out every day, eating healthy foods, sleeping properly, practicing your stupid little drills you might do for whatever craft you’ve chosen, knocking on doors, making phone calls, meeting new people, doing your laundry… as you are putting in all this effort to “make it”…

Remember to have fun.

Because you only live once!