The Body As A Spiritual Path

That’s an interview from about a year and a half ago with Reggie Ray and Renate McNay on meditating with the body, consciousness and the spiritual path through the body.

It’s gold. Watch it. And pay attention to the sensations in your body as you do.

I grew up in a culture in which we took for granted the imposition of our thinking, the absolute primacy of a “God-given” morality over our bodies.

In other words, the body was mostly bad, something to be fought, something to be fundamentally DISTRUSTED. The body could and would lead us astray. The heart desperately wicked, inherently wrong. The genitals, especially the genitals, organs of sinful temptation, full of shame. Downright indecent!

The past few years of my life I’ve increasingly followed a path of embodiment, of keeping my awareness IN my body–First through noticing aches and pains in my body and tightness in the muscles around my eyes, straining to see more, to see something different…

In college my vision was -3.50 diopters at one point. Now I use -1.50 glasses when I’m driving. And it keeps getting clearer. I’m in much less of a rush now, too, to see more clearly than I do right now, most of the time. We can talk about that if you’d like.

The pain in my left knee… I started to see a traditional chiropractor for that and had some results. The x-rays showed results. I didn’t feel much different though.

Then I started to see a Network Spinal Analysis (NSA) chiropractor in Charlotte, NC. (There might be one in your city, so look it up!) That’s when I started to FEEL different.

I started feeling the sensations in my body, going more fully into them, and especially at first, I was terrified.

I thought, no, I KNEW!: “If I let myself feel this sadness, I’ll be lost in it forever. I’ll never come back.”

But I was tired and out of other options, so I let myself feel it.

And it sucked. Ugh, it sucked.

It was such deep, infinite sadness.

And then something magical happened.

After about 8-10 minutes, I stopped crying and I started to return to a more balanced emotional state, except, something was different now.

I felt lighter.

I felt freer.

My body… the sensations in my body were different. It was like there was more space. I could breathe more deeply.

Wow!

So I kept going back.

I’ve been seeing different NSA practitioners now for about 4 years (because I’ve moved cities a few times.)

I’ve released icebergs worth of frozen energy from my body, frozen trauma and tension.

Sometimes it comes off in chunks, just like chunks calving off an iceberg or glacier.

Sometimes it’s little pieces that come off. Sometimes I’m not sure if much is happening at all, but I keep going because it’s a practice and my body lets go when it’s ready.

Then, about a year and a half ago, I found Orgasmic Meditation.

Whoa!

Talk about a catalyst.

As long as I practice, that is.

Since finding OM and the OM community, I’ve learned so much about showing up as who I really am. I feel more. I know more. I am more aware of what I want, and I’m more trusting that things will all work out. I surrender more, to what life is asking of me.

The sexual energy is a powerful energy, the creative force.

We can try to repress it, to control it, to ignore it… but mostly then it will come out in funky or harmful ways.

The best way to discover what lies in the darkness is to shine a light into it, to explore it, to approach it perhaps with a healthy dose of caution, but for godsakes, at least to investigate.

That’s my path, anyway.

I want to be free. I want to be fully ALIVE. I want to FEEL fully ALIVE. I want to know what it is to be fully human and operate at the limits of my capacities.

That’s my spiritual path.

To find my edges and lean into them.

And all my edges show up in my body.

I meditate with my body every day now, whether it’s OM or some of the embodiment practices from Dharma Ocean. In fact, I look forward to it! What will I discover today? What will be different? What will I learn? What will I let go of?

So here are a couple questions for you:

What is your relationship to your body?

Do you want more freedom in your body, more peace, more joy and connection, more energy, more structural stability, more of that feeling when you just feel like you?

Well, you can have all that, and much more. And I can help you with some of that navigation. I can help you remember some of the things you already know, if you’d like.

Love,

Aaron

P.S. What are your dreams and what challenges are in the way of having them? Would you like a free powerful 1-1 coaching session? Drop me a line at aaron@reallifeconnectioncoach.com

Money & Happiness Over Service And Creation Leads To No Money & No Happiness

It’s like all the money and savings experts say about how to actually save money, “Pay yourself first.”

If you don’t make the conscious, deliberate commitment to produce before you consume, you’ll be sucked into the current, and you won’t come out alive.

 

Money is important, it’s just not the most important thing. When we put money first, before virtues, it will never last. Whatever strategy where money comes before virtues, it may last for a while, but not for the long term.

When we put happiness first, before virtues, the happiness will not last either. Happiness, like money, is a by-product of the path, not the path itself. Money and happiness can indicate how we’re doing, but they’re not the path itself.

First virtues, then the by-products of those virtues. That’s the only way to sustain being ALIVE.

Life is short, and we’re all going to die, so why not go for every virtuous thing we want? Either way, we’re already dead.

So go for all of it. Don’t buy your own excuses. Learn how to sustain your passion and your joy. Cut out the bullshit and incorporate the good shit. Run toward your fear, and if you can’t run, then walk; if you can’t walk then crawl, and if you can’t crawl toward your fear, then at least be willing to look in its direction.

Drop those things that drain you and adopt those which fuel you.

It’s a rather simple equation, but it’s virtually impossible unless we have help from people who will hold us accountable and challenge us to see more and to be just a little truer than our current self-concepts would have us believe we are.

The comfort strategy will work for a while, until it doesn’t anymore.

The comfort strategy will work just great until you wake up one day with a crisis. Maybe your adrenals are burned out and you’ve only got 1 hour of energy a day, and, apparently, it’s time to either die or to change, to adopt new strategies and to shed the old ways that just aren’t working anymore.

It’s not always pleasant to die to the old. People often say that the truth will set you free, but what they often don’t say is that it might hurt when the chains come off.

People think fear is the enemy, but it’s not. Our avoidance and resistance to fear is the enemy.

Death is great. The natural fear of death we all have is great.

Why? Because the fear of death is so great for human beings that it will sometimes outweigh even our complacency to stay whom we’ve been. And in that case, there might be room for transformation.

Transformation can happen when we feel enough pain to consider that maybe we don’t know everything. We become so uncomfortable that we consider trying something new. We get so fucking desperate that we’ll turn off the TV, open a book, take a course, get a coach, anything to feel some relief.

There’s a thin, fuzzy line between courage and desperation.

And that’s ok. Whatever it takes to help us move. To motivate us. Pain can be quite the motivator.

As long as we’re no longer stagnating, rotting, festering in our old, warm, moldy putrid stories that used to lend us so much comfort.

Me? I want everything. I want it all. I want to be infinitely powerful. I want to experience myself as the universe, as the One and All, as everything and as nothing. As God.

And maybe that’s what we’re doing here on this tiny little speck in the Milky Way. It what we’re doing here on this one small planet, on one rather ordinary solar system in a relatively ordinary galaxy containing 500 billion other solar systems in a rather ordinary universe of 2 trillion galaxies, each with around 100 billion stars.

Compassion is in order.

The answers are in the questions, the movements, the stories, the searching, the experience, the stillness, the observation, the humility to admit conviction, uncertainty and desire.

The answers are in the experience and creation, and even in the destruction.

So go create something. Or, fuck it, go destroy something. Either way, it feels nice.

Love,

Aaron

P.S. For a limited time, I’m offering special discounted life coaching. E-mail me at aaron@reallifeconnectioncoach.com if you’re interested in some deep, powerful, intuitive and life-changing coaching. If it seems like we might be a good fit (based on your e-mail to me), I’ll block off a complimentary 1-2 hours for you. It will be great fun for me, and potentially life-changing for you. If it feels right, at the end of the call I’ll make my offer.

Lessons I’ve Learned From Depression

Sometimes I feel more like the Fake Death Disconnection Wannabe-Coach than the Real Life Connection Coach.

Sometimes I want to curl up into a ball, fall asleep and never wake up. Sometimes I’ll spend days or even weeks at a time dipping in and out of self-destructive and suicidal thoughts, hopelessness, and purposelessness.

Depression takes me down, down, down, so deep into an abyss. When I’m in it, it feels like nothing really matters. It can be sunshiny and beautiful outside, but all I see is gray.

So I’d like to share a few lessons I’ve learned and tools that have personally helped me through it.

#1: Asking the question: What really matters to me?

This question brings me back to my heart. What do I CARE about? Sometimes it seems like there is breathtakingly little I still care about, but I search and search because I know that if I’m still alive then there must be SOMETHING keeping me here.

This is super, super important, because it gets me in touch with my heart. What we care about lives in our hearts. The words care and core are practically the same word. The latin root word cor means heart (as in the word courage), and although it might not be scientifically etymologically correct, for me these words are close enough to make a connection.

I get depressed when I’m out of touch with what I care about (what’s in my HEART)–when I’m not prioritizing what I care about. For better or worse, when I’m not acting on what is most important to me, I feel sad, depressed, angry, and overall just “down.”

For the past few weeks I have not been prioritizing going out to meetups and networking and meeting people to talk to about my coaching business! My coaching business and, more deeply, helping people feel more ALIVE, energized and WHOLE is one of my deepest passions right now, and, thankfully, my heart won’t let me quit on this.

This leads me to the second thing that’s helped me out a LOT:

#2: Allowing myself to feel depressed/down/angry/sad and sharing it with close, trusted friends, life coaches and healers.

It feels a little risky to me posting this blog and video because I’m admitting I sometimes feel deeply, hopelessly depressed. What if some government organization uses this as evidence that they need to forcibly medicate me (against my will) and inject chemicals into me that numb my mind and spirit?!? That’s a genuine fear for me, probably the biggest one. I’m also afraid I’ll be misunderstood, or that people will run away from me, or that I’ll be shunned and isolated because I have problems.

Here’s the deal with that though. Depression, sadness, being “down” is NOT a problem, it’s a GIFT.

I imagine someone reading this might be thinking “How can depression possibly be a fucking gift, man? I mean, COME ON!!!”

See, if I never got depressed and sad and down, then I would be fine doing the things I’ve always done, not ever getting closer to growing my life coaching business. I would be ok to let my health and friendships and finances decay, because after all, if I’m feeling AWESOME ABOUT EVERYTHING ALL THE TIME, why would I want anything different?!?

What’s important to understand is that the “down” emotions are your friends.

They don’t feel like our friends when we’re emotionally unskillful, but they ARE our friends.

Working with our emotions is a SKILL. It’s a skill I’ve gotten better and better at, by practicing and practicing and practicing, and being patient and meditating…

The basic skill is to BE WITH our emotions.

We often spend MASSIVE energy avoiding, fighting, minimizing or rationalizing our emotions, instead of just being with them.

When we become more skillful at this, we can often allow our emotions to move through us much more quickly.

Now, “quickly” is relative, because sometimes it feels like FOREVER when we’re in the thick of it.

For me, what helps me “let it go” (which translated into more practical terms is: allow it to move) is spending time feeling it, and, especially, feeling it and becoming intimate with that emotion in the presence of someone I love who loves me/cares about me, and who is skillful enough to simply listen to me and ask curious, compassionate, patient questions until I can “go over the edge” and feel the depth, the pain, the tormented part of myself I’d been freezing in my body.

That’s what we’re habituated to, by the way. We’re habituated to FREEZING the emotions in our system, generally speaking. And that’s what creates more fear and more pain, is this contracting, this wall, this blockade we create, often automatically, because we don’t feel safe to actually feel the depth of what we’re feeling.

When we fight with reality, it takes a massive amount of energy, and in the end, reality still wins.

Here’s another helpful principle: The emotion is NOT telling the whole story. It’s telling part of the story.

In the moment, the emotion can often feel so fucking painful that it feels like it IS everything, that the emotion is the only thing that has ever or will ever exist.

The emotion can feel like it will suffocate us, drown us, kill us and leave our body to hang out to die.

That’s why we run. We’re not ready to die.

But what is amazing, and so fucking rewarding is that we don’t die. In fact, a little part of our ego dies (our ego being who we think we are vs who we actually are), and we get to discover a greater depth and width and height of Being we never previously knew.

And we learn how to have these “little deaths” over and over again.

We get better at dying these little deaths, which ironically, counter-intuitively, and with so much pleasurable surprise allows us to be MORE FULLY ALIVE THAN WE EVER IMAGINED POSSIBLE.

Being fully ALIVE is just a little bit more nuanced than it might appear to be on the surface because being fully ALIVE means feeling the UP and the DOWN. We don’t get one without the other.

LIFE includes DEATH, and when we celebrate ALL THAT IS, we discover reality and we begin to align with the Infinite Soul.

Being fully ALIVE is worth dying for.

And I’m here to listen if you’d like to talk.

I believe that the world is dying to be ALIVE, and being ALIVE starts by discovering the great mystery of who we really are and what we really care about.

I’d love to be a part of your discovery, so drop me a line if you’re open to chat about your life, to get fucking REAL, drop the bullshit, and experience MORE.

Let’s be more fully ALIVE!

Love,

Aaron

Strategy In Alignment With Life (Not Taxation)

 

Look around you and begin to think, feel and learn what Nature is, what Nature wants and what it means to be ALIVE, what the meaning of life truly is. And stop taking other people’s words for it. Don’t take my word for it!

Life is a celebration of existence. Life is an expression of perfection in its eternal growth and seasonal ebbs and flows.

And that’s the secret of the meaning of life: to grow and to be who we are, removing the blocks to the LOVE from which we are born.

There are laws and principles which enhance this growth and expression of Nature and there are [temporary] blocks to this growth and expression.

Long term VITALITY itself is an excellent reflection of our alignment with the laws of Nature.

Cultural/community vitality is the same, on a larger scale.

The long term outward manifestation is a reflection of inner integrity, and the more perceptive we become, the more we sense the alignment or misalignment of others and ourselves with the laws of nature.

The long-term is what counts here. Long term success is unsustainable if built on a faulty foundation.

The dearth of VITALITY we see currently in the world in so many places are results of misalignment with the deepest laws of nature, which are to forgive, to be truthful (that is to be loving) and to support LIFE.

People get extremely confused about what supports life in the long-run. Part of the problem is taking others’ word that “God’s word” is to kill, oppress, convert, destroy, conquer, repress, fight with nature, and to steal (taxation).

These are all compelling signals that LIFE is not being supported, protected and defended at basic levels.

But we are the ones who choose LIFE, fundamentally and circumspectly. And we choose to postpone certainty of all which may oppose life until the experiments have been conducted, and to be diligent students of what WORKS and what DOESN’T WORK, in the long run, of course.

We vigilantly seek indicators of that which grows us and that which kills us. We learn how to listen, to sense, to intuit and to sharpen each of these based on our dedicated observation of REALITY, not of some wishy-washy blog post, but of the life-long commitment to what WORKS, not to what we WISH would work, but to what WORKS.

I sometimes find myself so irritated at people who wish to CONTROL and COERCE and to FORCE things. This is a damned, lazy substitute to EDUCATED, RESPECT and LEAD towards what works.

What is so challenging about this is that we all want VITALITY. Many religions would call this “The will of God” which is ultimately peace, love, joy, abundance, resilience, celebration, perfection and growth.

Generally speaking, Muslims want peace. Christians and Jews want peace. Secular humans want peace. Republicans and Democrats want peace.

The conflict is that we have different ideas of strategy for long-term peace, growth and perfection.

Most humans still support massive CONTROL and COERCION. And one of the most pernicious manifestations of this tenacious desire for control in the United States today is the idea of “necessary evils,” namely, TAXATION.

Taxation IS theft.

If I own something and you take it away from me by force, under threat of danger to my well-being and without my consent, you have STOLEN something from me.

And it is no different if you wrap yourself in a flag and tell me your theft is for the “greater good.” It’s still theft.

Be suspicious of the integrity and claims of anyone who supports these ideals of “necessary evils,” because ultimately they are supporting control, coercion and death. AND have compassion on them because they’re doing the best that they can with the information that they have.

Theft is not in alignment with the fundamental principles of the universe, and any entity with a cracked foundation such as this will only rise so high, and WILL eventually FALL.

We may never rise higher than the integrity of our foundation allows.

If we look at the governments of the world as stepping stones on the way to another form of healthy community coherence and thriving, then it becomes easier to accept that this is a process and that we will get to the next stepping stone.

In a sense, all of our stories and beliefs are like stepping stones. They work to support our never-ending journeys for as long as they work! And they work until we’re ready to step onto the next stepping stone of belief.

Because eventually the beliefs we have once held stop working or they need to change when we’re on the path of growth.

Growth is about coming into alignment with that which supports growth, and shedding that which blocks it.

Nature grows as an expression of itself to the extent which it is in alignment with its deepest self, and in this process there is no coercion or theft, only relationship and mutually beneficial exchange.

So when will we begin to search for alternatives instead of bending over and taking it from the “necessary evils?”

Join me on the path to deeper integrity which supports life and growth in the longest, most sustainable way possible.

Have the courage to try something different.

Love,

Aaron

Life Is Like A Garden

We may often find ourselves trying to escape the intensity of what we feel. (Or maybe that’s just me.)

Sometimes it just feels like too much, doesn’t it?

If our garden has overgrown with weeds and we still desire to have a beautiful, productive garden, we can choose to ignore the weeds or we can get to work.

And especially at first it may feel overwhelming.

“There are too many damn weeds in here!” “These weeds have completely taken over!” “There’s no chance!” Those are the limiting beliefs that have us turn away from tending and towards our pre-tending–pretending that there’s any other way to get true sustenance than the natural process of long-term nurturing, tending, observing, digging.

So we sack up. We start pulling out the weeds one by one. We enlist our friends, our coaches, our communities, our therapists, our pets, haha, whichever resources we can think of.

And eventually, we make a little progress. Then a little more. And a little more.

The weeds never stop growing altogether, but when we tend to them daily, we stay on top of them more easily.

And we keep growing, changing with the seasons, becoming something new.

Life is like our own little garden.

And we get to choose what grows there!

Be ALIVE today,

Aaron

An Alternative to Growth

The alternative to growth seems clearly to be stagnation and death. And neither one of those FEEL good, do they?

Charles Fort, in The Book Of The Damned published in 1919 talks about that what is most nearly real is that which will last the longest.

So we seek that which is most nearly real. That which most resembles love. That which lasts quite possibly longer than its less real alternatives.

I just want to feel good, when it comes down to it. We all do. When we feel good, that means everything IS good. Isn’t it that simple?

The tricky part is in the sustainability of feeling good. Some things make us feel good for a few minutes, while others are painful immediately yet immensely gratifying later on. And it’s often those things which hold gratification LATER which allow us to feel best for the longest.

Things like proper exercise, diet, environment, reading books instead of watching youtube prank videos.

There are cheap, easy choices which cost much more in the long run. There will always be that alternative.

There is pain in life either way.

And in our human drive to maximize pleasure and minimize pain, it’s helpful to decide to take the pain on the front end.

We choose a pro-active pain strategy. We develop a love relationship with the front-end pain. We learn how to love it, or at least how to live with it.

And life gets better. Slowly, perhaps, but at least it’s not the procrastination of the same pain which collects its suffering with usurious interest.

It is what it is.

Aaron

February Blues And Staying ALIVE

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I feel like such a hypocrite writing these posts sometimes. “Impostor syndrome” I’ve heard it called.

Fucking ALIVE.

Awareness
Love
Integrity
Vitality
Excellence

All the things I most want, my highest values, my priorities, my truth. And I feel so far away from them so often. They say we teach what we most need to learn.

And so we persist. Gravitating towards the edges of what we recognize as most nearly real and sustainably pleasurable.

All this energy in our heads serves us well until it doesn’t anymore. Until we realize that our above-average intelligence is a by-product of feeling unsafe in our bodies. The underlying story: “My body is not safe, so I’ll refocus awareness in my head where I can figure things out.”

But that’s not working so well anymore.

What I hate sometimes is that it takes so much energy to heal.

It takes energy to heal.

I’ve paid thousands of dollars over the last few years to begin seriously healing. (Money ~ Energy –in case you hadn’t gotten that one yet.) I’ve invested LOADS of time into practicing healing.

I feel sad and hopeless when I think of my friends whom I doubt will win the battle. I imagine they’ll die before they realize they’ve mis-invested their energy. Better luck next life, I guess.

The truth is I’m bitter against my creator for setting it all up this way. Why did you make it so damn hard!? Did I want it this way? Did I really ask for this? Maybe I was so fucking bored with whatever I was doing before that I dreamed up this new “challenge mode” to play. Goddammit.

But at least we have each other. And we have a shot. I’ve been hopeless before, and I’m not hopeless in this moment. The whole world now seems to be teetering on the edge of the point of no return. What’s that physics term they use? Total capacity? Breaking point? Melt down? I don’t remember.

Oh yeah, “critical mass.”

Either way, death is probably just a new beginning.

It’s February again, could you tell? Fucking February.

This is the longest I’ve gone without alcohol or weed since I first used the substances in college.

I know the only way out is through. It’s the lesson I’ve been learning the last few years.

But god dammit it’s the patience part that sucks.

A dream here, a voice there. A few days of release followed by weeks of silence. A burst of anger, lost friends, several new friends who might not walk away when I show them my pain. #blessed.

I forgive you for turning your back on me. It hurt, but I needed the practice with the pain. And it’s all for the best, right?

All is well.

And it’s probably just February.

Love,

Aaron

Think And Grow Rich Commentary + Video

Do you even know what you want?

What do you REALLY, REALLY want?

It takes courage to admit what it is you really want. It takes courage to commit to what you really want.

Are you willing to play ALL OUT while you’re still alive?

I want to live fully while I’m still alive.

Like Hellen Keller said, “Life is either a daring adventure or nothing at all.”

And like I often say, “Fuck it.”

Decide what it is you want, write it down, ask yourself WHY you want that thing, and then WHY that reason, until you get down to what you REALLY, REALLY want.

Don’t let yourself off the hook doing this.

If you can, get down to the tears. Where you tap in to your heart and the intensity of what you desire SO HARD that you’re overwhelmed with emotion.

Usually that’s a good sign you’ve touched on your deepest desires.

What do you want to do before you die?

And how long are you willing to procrastinate your dreams?

It will take patience. It will take work.

But when we want something badly enough, we become HAPPY to do the work because we are inspired with a vision for the future, and the present becomes a joy.

We begin to discover what brings us joy.

We begin to discover sustainable ways to get what we *really want*–that’s a big one.

And sustainable ways of success are built on a firm foundation of Love, Vitality, Integrity & Freedom.

Go after your dreams.

But if you’re unclear on what your dreams are, how are you going to know when you’ve gotten them?

So write them down!

And then say them aloud every single day.

Become OBSESSED with your goals. Burn the bridges. Take risks.

Decide that only death can stop you from achieving what you want, and you’ll probably get it.

Because what if your dreams are possible?

Because you won’t accept mediocrity ANY LONGER.

Because you’ll die either way.

So fuck it.

Love,

Aaron

P.S. Seriously, grab a copy of Think and Grow Rich and immerse yourself in the beliefs and habits of success.

Man’s Search For Meaning by Victor Frankl Commentary + Video

 

 

Not by any stretch of the imagination am I comparing my suffering to the suffering endured by Victor Frankl and other holocaust victims.

However, there are parallels to suffering in general, and Victor Frankl’s perspective can apply greatly to our lives today, because whether we appear to have every possible comfort in life or to be deprived of every comfort in life, we can still be suffering regardless.

There’s so much wisdom to be gained from people like Frankl who endured so much and survived.

The 3 main ways he proposes we can find meaning in life:
1. Through our work
2. Through experiences (like loving someone or observing a beautiful sunset)
3. Through necessary suffering

I was also pleased to discover from the book that the German philosopher Nietzsche was attributed as the first to say, “That which does not kill me makes me stronger.” It wasn’t Kanye West.

You can pick up a copy of the book here.

Love,

Aaron

3 Ways That Getting a Sales Job Can Change Your Life

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Breaking News: Most people suck at sales, and it always sucks to be on the receiving end of some sucky salesperson’s sucky fucking salespitch.

But here’s the deal, love, when it comes to making money, you’re either making sales or you’re WORKING FOR SOMEONE who makes the sales for you.

You are not in business until sales are being made. And someone has got to do the selling.

So why do so many of us shy away from sales? Why do so many of us proclaim shitty beliefs like, “I don’t like sales” or “sales is just not my thing.”

Sales might not be your thing. But what about job interview skills, people skills, and COMMUNICATION SKILLS? Are any of those important or useful to you at all?

One of the reasons you might walk into that job interview nervous as fuck is because you have little to no experience selling anything at all, and now you’ve got to somehow magically know how to sell YOURSELF!?

Selling is a skill, my friend. It’s a communication skill. And like all other skills, it can be trained. And after being in sales for a decade, I can tell you that the rewards of having excellent communication skills are BOUNTIFUL.

So here are 3 ways that sales can change your life:

1. YOU CONTROL YOUR INCOME LIKE NO OTHER JOB

In sales, when you work harder and smarter, you make more money.

The problem is that most of us don’t push through the learning process until our brains figure it out for us.

But if you’re willing to persist, you’re going to eventually figure it out and make WAY more money than you would have by WORKING FOR SOMEONE who’s making the sales for you. You CANNOT increase your income working harder and smarter for an hourly wage. Unless you call a $0.50 raise every 6 months an increase in income.

I don’t. That’s fucking bullshit. $20 more a week?! (before taxes)

In a mediocre sales job you close 1 more sale and make $500-1000 more per week. I repeat, a MEDIOCRE sales job. $20 vs $1000.

It takes 50 weeks of $20 to equal $1000. There are 52 weeks in a year. That’s a year vs a week!

A $0.50 raise is disgusting, insulting and pathetic. But we just bend over and take it sometimes, don’t we? Do you just love it in the ass like that?

2. LEARNING HOW TO SELL IS AN INCREDIBLY POWERFUL TOOL FOR SELF DEVELOPMENT

Your level of income will seldom exceed your level of personal development.

And when you meet thousands of people, you start to see the patterns. You see the patterns of communication in yourself and in them.

You start to ask better questions.

You start to see through the bullshit. Through your own bullshit little fearful beliefs and the bullshit excuses and beliefs of others. You start to develop more empowering beliefs. Your intuition becomes incisive.

And just like developing any other skill, if you’re committed, you get to fall on your face over and over until you figure out how to stop falling so damn hard.

Give yourself some patience and compassion throughout this process, please!

When a baby learns how to walk, do you expect it to just jump right up and start running around? NO! Of course not! That little fucker’s got to learn how to sit, then crawl, then wobbly stand-glide…. all the way through the whole process.

Do you ever see that baby fall down and say, “Well, I guess this one’s just going to be a CRAWLER! I guess walking is just not his thing. He fell down! You know what that means… He’s just not a good walker!”

Ludicrous.

But somehow we find ourselves using this exact same line of reasoning  with ourselves when learning a new skill.

I want you to realize that selling is a skill, and if you’re not good at it, then that’s just how it is and you won’t ever be good at it unless you make a decision to GET GOOD AT IT.

And it can be a crucible, baby.

I’ve been in sales for almost a decade now, and it can be brutal sometimes.

I’ve cried. I’ve laughed and shouted with joy and elation. I’ve gotten angry, frustrated, confused and even ashamed at my lack of competence at times. I’ve also persisted with dogged determination from one no-sale to the next no-sale for WEEKS at times.

But after all this time and practice, I’m starting to master the process. And guess what? It’s fucking awesome. It is. fucking. awesome.

It’s awesome to know that I can go out and MAKE MONEY HAPPEN. I can go out confidently knowing that I’m going to help people get something that they probably weren’t even thinking about before that’s going to be valuable to them and MAKE A DIFFERENCE FOR THEIR LIVES and then I get financially rewarded as a result.

And no one can take away that confidence from me. I’ve earned it.

And so can you. I know it.

3. LEARNING SALES SKILLS IS THE FIRST STEP TO RUNNING YOUR OWN BUSINESS

Like I wrote in the beginning of the article, you’re not in business until you make a sale. If you dream about having your own business one day–helping people in your own unique, beautiful way, you won’t EVER have a business unless you’re selling something.

So make a decision to learn how to sell masterfully.

There are always sales jobs available. So you can start right now.

Step into the crucible of communication.

Refine your ability to CONNECT with people, to BUILD TRUST with people, to bring VALUE to people’s lives. That’s what good selling is all about, y’all!

I believe in you. I believe you can have everything you really want.

So if you want it, come and fucking get it.

Love,

Aaron

 

Say Yes

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When you suddenly see her across the room.

When you feel the familiar pangs of uncertainty.

When your gut isn’t giving you the answer.

When there’s a safe option and there’s the fun option.

When you haven’t done it before.

When you’ll be challenged.

When you might not get another chance.

When you might fail.

When you’ll be a different person afterwords.

When you might lose something.

When it’ll make you feel more alive.

When you’re scared to death….

Say yes.

Love,

Aaron

You Are Going To Die Soon

And when you accept this, your life is more enjoyable.

It takes the pressure off. It makes things funny. It makes what we have into a gift.

Of course, it’s your choice to see it that way, or to see life as full of pressure, as somber and as a burden.

My impending death is on the forefront of my mind every day, and I think this is a huge reason for a lot of my motivation in life. Experience has shown me that most people don’t think about death as often as I do, however, I’ve seen that many successful people think about death far more often than their less successful counterparts.

Death is not a choice. It is destiny. It is done.

Living, however, is a choice.

And if the quality of our lives is determined by the quality of questions we ask, then I’ll ask you this:

How much do you want to live before you die?