Imagine Your Body As A Business Organization, And YOU Are The CEO

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Everybody wants the gold. Everybody wants the resources to travel freely, to eat at the best restaurants, to soak up the sun on the beach without a care in the world.

Everybody wants it!

If you deny that you wouldn’t love to have tons of resources right at your fingertips, then you’re kidding yourself. The specific things that you want are likely different from the specific things that I want, but we all want abundant RESOURCES and RESOURCEFULNESS. And we all have dreams and desires, however varying those dreams and desires might be from person to person.

Sadly, one of the greatest hindrances we encounter in realizing our dreams is that we often don’t allow ourselves to fully feel the intensity of desire we have for them, pretending and convincing ourselves that if we don’t really want it, then maybe it won’t hurt as bad if we don’t get it. Low expectation, low disappointment, right?

We can deny our truest, deepest desires because we might reason: how badly would it hurt if we really allowed ourselves to feel the full intensity of those desires but never get them?

But who would turn down more resourcefulness, more abundance? Who in their right mind would turn down a real, actual no-strings-attached $100,000 check? No sane person would.

See, it’s helpful to understand that money is just energy once removed. Money is a physical representation (or often a digital representation) of how much we have helped other people.

Tai Lopez calls money “reciprocal altruism units” or RAUs. The basic philosophy here is that when we do something nice for someone, they give us money, as a physical certificate showing how much value we traded for those RAUs. It’s an idea also heavily popularized by Rabbi Daniel Lapin in his practical book Thou Shalt Prosper.

But money ain’t free, is it?

Well, the US government and the federal reserve seem to think so or at least act like it is, but for us, the people who don’t have the guns or the twisted sense of morality to forcibly take money from others, money ain’t free. (And yes, that’s another whole discussion.)

People get money by serving people.

(See a previous article I wrote here on Money & Happiness.)

The more and better we serve others, the more money we get in return.

So here’s a simple first step for acting more like a CEO in order to have more resources like a successful CEO (and not just monetary resources): Become the CEO of your body.

Your body is the instrument through which you can serve others. Your body is the organism that holds your energy, which is your capacity to move and act and LISTEN to other people. Your body is the constellation through which you interact with the world.

And your relationship with your body determines your relationship with others. You are limited in your connection with others by the limits of your connection with yourself. (Read that last sentence again.)

As Deepak Chopra says in The Book of Secrets, “The universe is in you.”

Now, imagine your body as a business organization.

Your body has hundreds of different parts, even trillions of parts at the cellular level.

And YOU are the CEO.

And your job is to take care of your organization. If you don’t take care of your organization, as the CEO, what’s going to happen to it? It’s going to fall apart! So in order for your organism to function optimally, you’ve got to make sure that each member is doing it’s job, that it has what it needs to do it’s job, and that each member is being heard properly and also held in balance and in check with proper accountability. Don’t let any one member take over the show. You’re the CEO.

Now, imagine a business organization where several important members really had some important messages to say to the rest of the company, but the CEO wouldn’t allow them to speak.

In this case, there would probably be some turmoil in the business, right?

Our emotions can often be like these muted members of the organization. If we don’t allow ourselves to listen to each part of ourselves, then our organization is not going to be cooperating. It will be more of an oligarchy or dictatorship than a coherent, successfully operating culture.

Which type of organization is going to last longer and be more effective? A dictatorship where the members of the body/business are subjected to whatever the “ruler” decides, or a more democratic organization where each member of the body gets a voice, gets to be heard, gives its message?

Now, again, this doesn’t mean we allow any one member to take over our organization.

Here’s one crucial piece of this which is easy to misunderstand: You are not your thinking mind.

YOU are something beyond your thinking mind.

Don’t let your mind be the autocrat of your organism. Because it will if you let it.

YOU are the awareness that inhabits your body and can listen to your thinking mind, if you so choose. You are the CEO who recognizes the importance of the thinking mind, but doesn’t allow it to run the show.

You, the aware CEO, can also listen to your heart.

And to your guts.

And to your fingertips, and hands, arms, shoulders, neck, eyes, ears, nose, feet, toes, legs, knees, hips, genitals, chest, nervous system, electromagnetic sensors, etc.

You’ve got a lot of parts in your organism.

And they’ve all got messages at different times. Don’t let any one part take over the show, especially not your thinking mind, which LOVES to take over the show and pretend it’s the CEO.

You–your awareness–that’s the part of you that is most YOU, and that’s the part you can think of as the CEO.

So with this understanding and metaphor, the next step is to cultivate more intimacy with all the parts of your organism/organization, so that you can be a more effective, resourceful CEO. You’ve got to get in there and balance things out.

Not in a despotic way, but in a compassionate, perhaps lovingly and fatherly way.

And you begin to do this better by listening better. You practice listening, because listening is a practice.

Listen to your organism, your organization, your constellation of beautiful parts. Hear the messages. Let the members of your body speak to you for as long as they need to.

 

Here’s a simple meditation for you to practice listening better, so that you can cultivate more awareness and therefore more resourcefulness, more abundance and more compassionate CEO-ness.

Sit or lie down comfortably, and begin to place your awareness on different members of your organism.

Feel your awareness in your stomach, in your guts. Let your awareness rest there, slowly beginning to notice what sensations are there in your guts.

And just notice.

If you’re paying attention, what you’ll probably notice is that you’ll start to have some thoughts.

Don’t beat yourself up about it, remember: you’re the compassionate CEO.

Just recognize that you’ve had a thought and that the thought isn’t you, and bring your awareness back down to your stomach.

And do this process over and over again. Your mind will give you thoughts, and you’ll notice this, and bring your awareness back to your stomach. And you do this over and over again. Awareness expansion, notice the thought, come back to awareness.

After doing this for a few minutes, bring your awareness to your heart.

Feel the sensations in your heart. “Listen” to them. Often when I’m doing this, really becoming aware of my heart, I feel some pain there, but also love.

Whatever is there, especially if it’s pain, be with that pain as much as you can, as if you’re being with a distraught child who’s hurt, holding the pain in the compassionate embrace of your awareness. Do your best to not get lost in it or indulge in it, or allow it to masquerade as you. Remember that YOU are something beyond the feeling. Ideally, you have the feeling, the feeling doesn’t have you.

And as your thoughts come in, simply notice this and bring your awareness back to your heart, your guts, your legs, your arms, the rest of your body that is likely crying out for some compassionate listening. Your body that wants so badly to be heard.

I do this for 20 minutes every day, rarely missing a day.

It’s a simple meditation, in the vein of what’s commonly known as Vipassana meditation, if you want to research it more on your own.

What you’re doing here is cultivating your awareness. You’re taking care of your body organism by compassionately listening to it. And as one of my life coaches often says, “ABC–Awareness Brings Choice.” The more choices you have, the more resources you have.

And as you consistently listen to your body, you might start to notice that your body–all parts of your organism–are on your side. Each part, when held in compassion and balance is an important member that has messages for you to take into account, so that you can operate more effectively and resourcefully.

“In an abundance of counsel, there is great wisdom.” -Hebrew Proverb

So listen to the wisdom of your body.

Each individual part might not be telling the whole story–by definition, it’s not telling the whole story. But by taking its counsel and listening to its message, you will be more aware of what is really going on in your “organization.”

You’ll have more resources.

And from this place of more resources, you’ll be better prepared to meet life’s challenges.

You’ll also likely have more energy! Because when your body is operating on all cylinders, like a healthy V-8 engine, it’s going to have more power, more capacity to move and get things done in the world.

I challenge you to start acting more like a compassionate CEO. After all, you are the owner of a massive, complex organismization. (That’s your new word for the day 😉 )

And the better you start listening to your whole organization, listening to the counsel of the different members, the more they’ll love you–they more they’ll love being a part of the organization, and the more they’ll give back to you. AND, the more you’ll be able to listen better to other people. So that you can hear between their words, and maybe even deeper than they can even hear themselves sometimes. And when we can hear others deeply, we can also serve them more powerfully. We can help them  more!

So stay with the practice.

Do you think you could try this for a week? 15-20 minutes a day listening deeply to your personal organismization?

If you want to give it a shot, I’d love to hear about your experience with it and what you notice–whatever you notice.

Let me know in the comments section below if you’re going to take on this challenge, or if you’ve already been practicing something similar, and what effect it has has on you.

And if you’d like me to coach you through some of these simple practices, head over to the page Life Coaching, and drop me a line!

In love and service,

Aaron

“Confessions of a Pick-Up Artist”–My Guest Post on the Blog “Penciled”

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I recently posted this article on my friend’s blog at www.penciledandpricked.blogspot.com Enjoy!

My name is Aaron Zauber, and I’m a pick-up artist.

I love what I do, and, unlike the many men/boys who hope that love will accidentally happen to them, or that financial wealth will accidentally happen to them, or that success (defined as: getting what they want) will accidentally happen to them, I don’t share a similar hope based on accident.

I personally do not believe that Life accidentally happened to me–I simply see too much Intelligent Design to believe otherwise–so I choose to live my life intentionally.

Every day I feel my intense desire and burning passion for a life well lived, for excellence, for enjoyment, for abundant peace, passion, freedom, fun, wealth, health, and love connection.

Part of what makes life wonderful for me is my relationships with women.

I fucking love beautiful women.

I also love fucking beautiful women.

And in my experience, I’ve noticed that the only thing creepier than learning how to be good with women is NOT learning how to be good with women.

Here’s an example of what many men do in this world in relation to women:

“Hey, baby, let me pretend I don’t feel attraction to you while I ask you what time it is and then I’ll stall for more time to keep you here with me while I fumble with questions to ask you so that you’ll maybe, hopefully, be interested in me and maybe I’ll accidentally say something funny and you’ll laugh and then we can maybe start hanging out and I’ll be such good friends with you for a few years and then one day after I’ve listened to you telling me about all your asshole boyfriends who don’t care about you and I’ve been your bestest-ever crying shoulder and supported you through so many things and always been there for you and stuff, and now that we’re alone in this room together and I’m drunk I guess I should probably tell you I love you and PULL OUT MY DICK! SURPRISE!!! I’VE GOT A DICK!”

Let’s face it. Creepiness is not cool.

Learning how to be good with women (and subsequently less creepy) is doing women a HUGE favor.

I know these skills can be learned, because I’ve learned it. I’ve gone from Lonely Loser to Lascivious Lover in a few years time, and I’ve had some of my most incredible and life-valuable experiences along the way. I’ve had many cosmic sexy times with beautiful women as well as some of the most incredible highs and lows of my life. Another side benefit of going out to meet beautiful women all the time is that I’ve even created and maintained some rewarding and fucking awesome friendships along the way with some cool-ass peeps like the author of this blog, Dara. 😉

To learn these skills, you must be willing to sit, crawl, walk, then run, in that order. Learning how to be naturally attractive is a process which takes time and dedication. In this process, it also helps to be prepared to fall down and stumble while learning.

This is so important. Do we look at babies learning how to walk who fall down while trying and then we proclaim, “Well, I guess this one’s going to be a crawler!” Of course not! We understand that experimentation is fundamental to the learning process, and it will take time and dedication.

So, I recommend to begin at the only place you can, where you currently are. It all starts with an intentional approach. And then another. And then another. Practice. Experiment. Practice. Experiment. You may find it helpful to treat it as a meditation, in the sense that as you develop your skills, you may find that you’ll always be compelled to come back to that deep sense of self and presence inside.

Are you willing to trade a little comfort for a little excitement?

Through this process of practicing the approach and then the “womenfolk” responding to you in differing ways based on your presence, your words and your actions, you’ll begin to learn this coveted and highly rewarding way of being, commonly referred to as: less of a Creeper, more of a Keeper.

Here’s to more Keepers.

Love,

Aaron

Becoming A (Better) Producer Of Value

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A producer creates something of value and offers his “produce” to others. Whether or not they choose to “consume” it is often a reflection of the value of that product.

I believe it is the creators, the producers who are having the most fun. They are, after all, providing the value for the consumers. Of course, in certain areas, we are consumers and in certain other areas, perhaps, producers.

For example, one of the ways I currently produce and create value is by inspecting homeowners’ roofs, facilitating the insurance claim process, and managing the roof replacement project.

Another way I produce value is by writing these blog posts!

The first activity results in people giving me money for my services. This second action doesn’t result in money back to me, but still has intrinsic value to me, not yet represented by an external representation of value (i.e., money). That intrinsic value includes an opportunity for self-discovery, clarification of my thoughts, and the important practice of offering my experience and insight to others.

I’m so grateful for this platform to express myself. It is a practice of courage, diligence, and integrity, among many other skills and virtues. Maintaining a blog like this can also be a learning and refining practice, as long as I am willing to observe the results and be open to feedback. I am always looking for better ways to communicate and to say what I mean (and mean what I say) in the most effective and authentic ways possible.

Here’s the deal and the point: I’m ready to step up my game to begin producing more, offering more value than ever. I’m starting with where I am, with what I know, with the resources that I currently have, and going from there. I will create what I can and offer it up to the internet surfers, to the streets, to the ones willing to listen.

I’ve attempted a couple times to make video blogs and I’ve been pretty disgusted with my attempts so far, but I’m going to try again.

I want to create. To produce. To start things. To make things happen. So I’m going to do the only thing I know how to do and give it my best shot. Over and over again. I’m stepping up my creating and production game.

How can I offer more value?

Love,

Aaron

 

The Truth About Why People Pretend To Be Socially Awkward

Why do people so often act  socially inhibited and stilted at the beginning of the night in the club?

It’s because they’re afraid of two things: success and failure.

If they allow themselves to feel all of the excitement and/or nervousness that they feel in the moment, they may be ridiculed.

On the other hand, if they allow themselves to feel their own excitement and/or nervousness, they may discover a massive energy that propels them into an ecstatic state. Then what will they do with all this attention? If they attract attention to themselves, they have a bigger risk of looking weird or looking cool.

Looking weird is scary because no one wants to NOT be accepted for who they are. Also, they don’t want to have to put in the energy to change, if they aren’t who they thought they were. They don’t want to let themselves down for not being as cool as their ego wants to think that they are.

Looking cool is scary because then after gaining attention they might lose it all and fail even harder by screwing it up somehow.

Did you know that your brain is thinking all of this and way more every time you go into an unfamiliar social gathering?

It all comes down to responsibility and fear of discovering that we are imperfect.

Most people do not want more responsibility. They are unwilling to take leadership, accepting and owning the consequences of their actions. Small, socially acceptable actions are “safe” because then they can take small responsibility. They don’t have to face possible ridicule or more attention than they’re used to having.

What happens if you start to do what you want though? To really be excited and talk as much as you want and allow your life energy to permeate your being and influence those around you?

Well, first of all, in order to do this, you must be open. You must be honest about the way that you are feeling in general. Whatever your emotions are, you’ve got to stop resisting them and whether or not you like them, you must accept them. Otherwise, people will see right through you.

Most people aren’t skilled enough to lie about their emotions for more than a few seconds. It takes too damn much energy.

What do I mean by this? What does it mean to “lie” about your emotions?

It means that you know you feel a certain way, but you are unwilling to accept that feeling. You do not acknowledge that feeling. You resist it.

However, as the Taoists say, “What you resist, persists.”

Proportionately to how much you are resisting an emotion, you will attract that energy. People hate to be lied to, and people can see right through your bullshit. YOU are the only one who is choosing to accept your own lies.

Other people will rarely accept you when you are lying to them, and only the people who are attempting to believe the same lies as you will be your truest friends. But these relationships are unstable since they are based on lies. Relationships founded on shared TRUTHS will last much longer.

In some rare cases, someone may feel sorry for you and try to help you because they see the truth about you even when you don’t. They believe that you are a good person who is confused. That kind of person is rare and is taking a huge risk to be your friend since most people will push others away when their beliefs are fucked with. It is possible that your belief in your own lies may be so strong that you may end up pushing away the person who is trying to help you.

People of about the same self-esteem level will feel the most comfortable with each other. How honest you are in every area of your life is often a good reflection of your self-esteem.

So what do you do with all this information? Can it even possibly apply to you?

Probably.

Even the most “honest” among us can stand to be more honest about our deepest beliefs, our habits, our loves and hates. Have we ever even taken an explicit look at what those are?

I hope so.

The truth really will set you free.

But first you have to realize that you’re trapped. You have to be humble enough to examine your beliefs and courageous enough to feel your emotions.

When you know who you are, you accept who you are, you take responsibility for who you are, you are assertive about who you are and what you stand for, what you purpose is, and you live with integrity, this is when you are free.

It takes courage to live free.

And all of it takes practice.

So practice!

And enjoy the process. You’re going to be doing this for the rest of your life.